You two get along and have a good time together. But that’s not always enough to take the step of living together. Many couples quickly settle down together and then discover that they are not compatible in everyday life, only it is unfortunately too late. The rush can sometimes lead to many conflicts, sometimes even to break-up. So maybe it’s best to wait a little while before moving in together, taking the time to really get to know each other. To help you see things more clearly, here are 7 signs that prove that you are not ready to live together.
1 -You love your “each other’s home
You’re happy to see him, you’re always having a great time together. Weekends, impromptu evenings, all this adds spice to your story and that’s how you feel good. Moreover, when he goes home, you are almost relieved. The couch, sweatpants or no-make-up pilou-pilou pajamas and the quiet evening watching your favourite show with a bowl of chips are all yours. You realize that in the end the moments alone are precious and too necessary for you. It’s a sign that you’re comfortable with him, but that you love your independence and that you’re not ready to live with him. At least not yet.
2 -You don’t have the same lifestyle
Don’t you live at the same pace? He’s an early sleeper/early riser and you’re the other way around? You have certain eating habits and he has a completely different “diet”? You like sports and he doesn’t, or vice versa? Or you don’t like the same things at all on TV? These are all little things that may go unnoticed at first, but in everyday life they can lead to constant arguments and conflicts.
What’s more, when he comes to your home he allows himself a few little thoughts about your decor or puts his nose in your business and that annoys you prodigiously? Another sign that, for the moment, your lifestyles are too opposed and that it is more prudent for you to get to know each other a little more and to tame each other rather than rushing to live together.
3 -Your last holiday wasn’t idyllic
Holidays are always a good test before living together because you get a little more aware of each other’s way of life. The test was not conclusive for you? You left together a while ago and your holiday, which was supposed to be romantic, didn’t go as planned? You didn’t have the same desires at all, one wanted camping and the other a comfortable hotel, one wanted to visit when the other wanted to laze by the water. In short, you weren’t really on the same wavelength and you couldn’t agree. So if a week spent together without the daily grind and routine goes wrong, imagine when you’ll really be living together? Maybe that’s not a good idea right now.
4-You don’t make concessions
When he comes to your home, you find that you find it hard to bear that he uses or changes something. It’s your apartment, your stuff, your fridge, etc. You are quickly annoyed if he behaves a bit like he does at home and allows himself a few small remarks at the passage of time such as “Your table would have been better here, wouldn’t it? “You leave the light on for a long time, pay attention to the bill! “I would have rather put this frame here…”. All this makes your hair stand on end and makes you angry very quickly. Don’t look any further, you’re not ready to live with him right away.
5 -You’re a merging couple
When you’re together, you’re really glued together, you don’t take your eyes off each other, even when you’re with your friends. Your friends think that you are real Siamese twins. This is good news that shows that you love each other and that you are building a beautiful story. But beware, because in the long run this can become problematic if you decide to live together. You will no longer have intimacy or secret garden if you are too fusional. Wait for the fusional passion to come down a little and for each of you to become more independent, because by deciding to live together too quickly you will deprive yourself of your freedom and this can harm your relationship in the long term.
6 -“Living together” makes you think of “savings”.
Having a dependent apartment can sometimes be heavy to carry on a daily basis, especially on a single salary. Rent, water and electricity bills, shopping… Your budget is put to the test at the end of each month! So you tell yourself that it will be easier for both of you and that it will give you some financial breathing space. Except that this should not be your main motivation. You are supposed to live with the one you love, not see him as a roommate. Living together is much more than just dividing the monthly expenses. So, when you think about living together, if the first reason that comes to mind is this one, know that you’re not ready to live together.
7-You’re afraid of routine: Another sign that you’re not ready to live together
Living together doesn’t have to be boring. But we must still be aware that when we live together, habits and a certain routine are established, it is logical and normal. You share a rhythm of work and daily tasks and this is also what makes a couple balanced. But today, when you see each other, it’s always with lots of surprises and improvisation. You like this lack that is created because it makes the reunion even better. Each time it’s different and that’s how you like your story at the moment. You don’t yet feel ready to share the daily routine that will follow. So you are not yet ready to live together, so take your time, there is no hurry if you are happy like this for the moment.