Toxic relationships are very much a part of our lives. Relationships that tire us more than they feed us. Relationships that we spend a lot of time in, yet we spend a lot of time in… What if we got out of them? Here are 4 steps to get rid of toxic relationships.
Hello, dear reader. It’s Tiffany. I’m glad to see you in this new article.
Today I’m going to answer the question, “How do you break free from toxic relationships? »
This is a very important issue since toxic relationships are commonplace in our lives.
I’m not talking about the narcissistic manipulator, but rather about all those people you keep in our lives, sometimes at the cost of a lot of effort, even though even these relationships don’t feed us at all, worse, they exhaust us.
Yes, many of us have toxic relationships, sometimes without even knowing it.
That is why I am writing this article to give you some advice.
4 Steps to Freedom from Toxic Relationships
1 – Recognizing a toxic relationship
What is a toxic relationship? It’s any relationship that wears us down over time. Relationships that stress us, in which we “support” people.
We don’t always realize that we are in toxic relationships or we hide the truth from ourselves.
Because some of these toxic relationships we justify them. Indeed, it is not uncommon to say of a person: “Our relationship is complicated, but you understand I have no choice… “
Why wouldn’t we have a choice?
Because that person is a relative, a person we’ve known for many years?
This is not about obligation, on the contrary, it is about choice!
If you enter into a relationship thinking that you have no choice, then it is surely a toxic relationship.
Every relationship should be based on the notion of choice, of freedom.
I choose to be in that relationship. I’m free to choose whether or not to have that relationship.
Do you see how different that is?
2 – Forgiving and forgiving each other
Once we recognize that we are in a toxic relationship, it is important to forgive. Forgive the other person and forgive yourself.
Realizing that we are living in toxic relationships with people can be a shock. Anger and resentment can quickly build up in our hearts.
Instead, I urge you to forgive and forgive yourself.
Living in toxic relationships is human. It happens to everyone. You didn’t do it on purpose, and neither did the other person. It just happened, that’s all.
In a relationship, there’s always two of us. No one in particular is to blame. Besides, there is no fault. There’s just a past.
Today is no longer the past, and you can make sure it doesn’t become a purgatory of that past.
Free yourself from anger and resentment. Have the word “forgiveness” in your heart and on your lips. It is kinder to the soul and much more life-giving.
For you can build on forgiveness, but not on anger.
3 – Freedom from toxic relationships
Now that you’ve acknowledged that you’re in a toxic relationship, that you’ve chosen forgiveness over anger, it’s time to set yourself free. How do I do that?
Freedom means giving yourself the choice not to be in that relationship anymore.
Freedom is choosing our happiness.
Because we’ve just realized that this relationship is doing us more harm than good, we’re freeing ourselves.
There is nothing wrong with that, quite the contrary, it is a cry from the heart that only aspires to happiness and peace.
To free ourselves is simply to take a step aside.
There is not necessarily an explanation to give, not necessarily a long speech, just an “I don’t feel like it anymore”.
An “I’m free to go”.
Because we are free!
We don’t have to do anything, we make ourselves believe the opposite.
So sometimes we stay in toxic relationships because we are afraid of what others might think about us if we stopped.
But more than the way others look at us, we are afraid of the way we look at ourselves.
Yes, it’s hard to accept not being that kind, caring person, that person who is always there for others, family and friends.
First of all, we have to free ourselves from our own gaze. Accept not being perfect. Accept that you can’t be that perfect person to be happy.
Because happiness, your happiness needs you to make choices. Choices that are not always obvious, but choices that are liberating, that create joy and that take the stress out of some of your relationships.
Make that choice, make the choice for your happiness. Free yourself from what prevents you from being happy.
4 – Start again and again
Because we’re human, we’re going to dwell on it, we’re going to fall back or we’re going to start again and that’s perfectly normal.
Living in toxic relationships are hard times to go through. It’s not always easy to get up.
That’s why we’re going to have to go through steps 1, 2 and 3 over and over again.
Recognize again that our relationship is toxic. Forgive and forgive ourselves. And then release ourselves.
In life, it is necessary to do things over and over again. To go back and do it again. That’s normal.
So give yourself time.
Don’t ask too much of yourself. Accept that it hurts. Accept that it haunts your thoughts.
Trust that, little by little, these toxic relationships will become less and less present, less and less burdensome in your life.
One step at a time!
Remember that life doesn’t have to be perfect to be beautiful. Accept the journey, accept the process.
Getting out of toxic relationships doesn’t happen in a day, but it does happen, and that’s the most important thing.
Remember that the only relationship that is completely dependent on you is the one you have with yourself. So take good care of yourself. Forgive yourself for your mistakes and love yourself with all your heart.