Relationship Advice

12 Signs You’re In An Unhealthy Relationship

Written by Amenda
  1. You are unhappy.

Unhappiness is usually one of the first signs that you are in an unhealthy relationship, because it affects you on a deep level.

When you are truly in love and your partner loves you, it often manifests itself in your personality.

This doesn’t mean that you won’t be sad or depressed from time to time, but happy days are usually higher than days full of sadness, anger, or depression.

Even if your partner is not responsible for your happiness, if he loves you, he will do everything to make you happy and feel comfortable.

It won’t cause you pain, sadness or tears, instead your smile will be the number one priority.

If you often feel sad, angry, scared, or depressed, this is one of the obvious signs that you are in an unhealthy relationship.

  1. There is constant abuse

In any form, abuse is not a sign of love. I keep telling people that if someone really loves you, they won’t hurt you permanently and knowingly.

If your partner hits you or verbally insults you and at least disrespects you, it’s a great sign that they don’t like you.

No man who truly loves a woman will make her cry or feel sad.

Don’t justify yourself by your actions; no one has the right to insult you verbally, emotionally, or physically.

If you notice these signs of violence in your relationship, leave immediately and save your life. You are not a boxing bag, and you deserve better.

  1. Communication is bad

In any healthy relationship, the level of communication is usually astounding.

Couples freely share their feelings, thoughts, and plans. They laugh loudly at nothing and never look for something to talk about.

But in an unhealthy relationship, the situation is always the opposite. Couples constantly argue, argue, and argue about the same or different issues.

What makes it unhealthy is a long silence, resentment over unresolved conflicts or violence against each other.

Another way to identify signs that you are in an unhealthy relationship is to measure your communication level. Is this satisfactory?

  1. Intimacy does not imply mutual satisfaction

Intimacy is one of the basic foundations of a romantic relationship, and it’s what separates friendships from relationships and helps couples get closer.

In a good relationship, both partners are interested in satisfying each other and improving their personal lives.

They often work together to find out what they like in bed, what makes them feel loved, how they want to be touched, or what kind of sex they like the most.

In an unhealthy relationship, there is a clear manifestation of selfishness, when the partner gets satisfaction in bed and does not care about the intimate needs of the other person.

There may also be signs of violence or violence when it comes to intimacy.

If your partner forces himself on you without your consent and hurts you for pleasure, it’s clearly a toxic relationship.

If there is no passionate love, but only pain, you need to leave as soon as possible.

  1. Opinions are not freely shared

If everyone in a relationship has the freedom of expression to express their feelings or thoughts without fear of criticism, judgment, or rejection, it can be classified as healthy.

Your partner should be your friend, with whom you can freely talk about anything and expect a good response.

But in an unhealthy relationship, the partner feels superior and makes all the decisions on their own, without consulting the other person.

It can also lead to over-dependence on your partner, as you are not allowed to make your own choices or lead an independent life.

This attitude is not conducive to creating a healthy environment for the development of relationships.

If you can’t communicate freely with your partner, or if you haven’t even bothered to ask your opinion on important issues, this is not normal at all, and this relationship is clearly toxic.

  1. No sense of acceptance

We all thrive when we feel accepted for who we are. Many of us are afraid of being rejected and just need someone who loves us with all our strengths and weaknesses.

This is the beauty of love; often you look for imperfections in people.

Does your partner accept you for who you really are? Or does he want you to change and become someone else?

Acceptance is the first stage we experience after love.

Because of how much we love each other, we are willing to combine our personalities and work together on our shortcomings. Here’s how a healthy relationship works…

In an unhealthy relationship, one or both partners openly despise the other, constantly compare their relationships, and want to force a change in personality.

  1. Lack of ongoing support

Your romantic partner should be your biggest fan, who will embrace you no matter what, and support you in all your endeavors.

When you have someone who supports you, it encourages you to be the best version of yourself.

If your partner is not interested in your work or supports you in achieving your goals, it is an unhealthy relationship that will not give you the opportunity to grow.

A good partner should be willing to listen to your plans, celebrate your successes, and show empathy for your failures.

They must also be willing to support physically, emotionally, and financially. Anything that doesn’t match this is an unhealthy relationship!

  1. No quality glue time

Spending quality time with the other half is one of the best ways to strengthen the emotional connection when building a long-term relationship.

Your partner and personal life should be a top priority.

If your significant other is justified in claiming that she spends most of her time away from you all the time, busy and intentionally, it shows that she doesn’t want to hang out with you.

If you love someone, you can’t be too busy with romance or their attention.

Loving partners often make time out of their busy schedules just to spend quality time with someone they love.

In an unhealthy relationship, though, your partner will obviously ignore you and prefer to spend their free time with other people.

  1. No trust or loyalty

Jealousy is a good trait when it manifests itself in small amounts and less often.

But if it’s a recurring argument in your relationship that causes distrust and disloyalty, it’s a red flag.

Trust is one of the firm pillars that establish relationships, and once it’s broken, it’s hard to rebuild.

In a toxic relationship, a lack of trust is always the cause of disputes and conflicts.

This can often manifest itself in the fact that your partner wants to know your position and restricts you to communicating with people who are important to you all the time.

When one person does not trust the other, there will be no harmony or cooperation between the couple, which can lead to a failed relationship.

If you can’t do anything without your partner being jealous or suspicious, that’s a bad sign.

  1. Infidelity is a recurring theme

Intimacy is something special that should be shared between two people who love each other, and be prepared for a serious relationship.

There should be no third parties unless the couple agrees.

Infidelity is a big sign of disrespect on the part of a romantic partner, and no one should tolerate it, especially if it happens several times.

By cheating, your partner creates a huge gap in your intimacy, causing emotional trauma and leaving you at risk of contracting an STD.

When someone disrespects you or thinks about the consequences of their actions, they don’t really like you and probably never will.

Betrayal is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

  1. Lying and dishonesty-the new normal

Like infidelity, lying also creates disharmony and enmity between couples.

Relationships cannot flourish if there is no honesty or transparency.

In a healthy relationship, no one sees the need to hide something, fake information, or suspect their partner of unfair play.

There is a good degree of honesty and openness that opens the way for the couple’s trust and growth.

If you catch your partner red-handed for lying, hiding important details from you, or keeping dirty secrets, it’s a sign that you’re in an unhealthy relationship.

And such a relationship really can’t offer anything good to you or your future. It will exhaust you and make you miserable.

The sooner you leave, the sooner you’ll find peace of mind.

  1. You are not on the same financial page

After communication and intimacy, money is another hot topic that can lead to disagreements and conflicts between the couple.

Happy couples usually share the same values about money, set common financial goals, and work together to achieve financial freedom.

This means that they regularly create monthly budgets, exchange bills, and save on large purchases together.

If this is not the case in your relationship, you are not happy with it, because it means that you are in an unhealthy relationship.

It’s good for a couple to keep the money separate and spend it whenever they want, if they agree.

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Amenda