Relationship Advice

6 Expert Tips For A Long, Happy Relationship

Written by Amenda
1-Finding your Personal Balance

 "The longer the relationship lasts, the lower the risk of separation. A crucial factor in a sustainable partnership is a sense of fairness. The conflict must be resolved so that no one feels constantly exploited, otherwise the person will question the medium - and long-term relationship. It's not so much a matter of understanding the role: many couples are very happy with a dynamic that is more leadership than the other. This is a negotiation between partners and individual needs. Some people want to have a little responsibility and thrive on it. If the partner feels that he is somehow using this to his advantage, then the relationship becomes unbalanced.”
 
2-Share new experiences together

 "When a relationship is in balance, things going through together become more valuable than some of the short, bad moments that are always part of it. This is why it is important not only to build on what has been proven, but also to try new things that come together as a result of shared experiences. Thus, as a couple, we gain security and regularity in conflict resolution. All we know is that nothing can lead us astray in a hurry. This calmness and self-control is manifested in the feeling: we belong to each other and we come. Then a pair is a team that can depend on each other.”
 
3-Commitment to communication

 "The key to a happy relationship is to connect,to feel connected to each other. While communication is strengthened through face-to-face communication, it is weakened by avoiding (or even neutral) communication. Examples:
 You go for a walk, you're cold. Your partner not only notices this, but immediately recommends going to the nearest cafe and wants to invite you for a hot drink.
 This is a gentle communication:caring, creative, and caring.
 When you say you're cold, he says, " Yes, it's cold today."If he says: "Why don't you wear something warm?"”
 However, communication doesn't always have to be verbal;we also communicate with each other in nonverbal ways. With a simple " look!"You don't just say that you notice what you suspect your partner wants to see. You also indicate that you want to share a moment, an experience, with your partner. Anyone who has children knows the moment when toddlers pull up their sleeves to show something:they seek attachment. In a romantic relationship, in this sense, we never really get old-but we continue to be children.”

4- Learn the language of love

 Praise and appreciation, gift, compassion, help, and tenderness are the 5 universal languages of love. Find out what language your partner speaks and what makes them happy. Then they won't talk to each other.”
 
5-Accept the fact that most conflicts cannot be resolved.
 
"About 70% of all conflicts between husband and wife are not resolved through compromises that can satisfy both partners equally. The problem is that in the medium and long term, these commitments cause the partner to lose optimism in the relationship, as the impression increases: I never get what I want. That is why the exchange is so important: if a person is able to satisfy their desires again and again, then the satisfaction with the relationship increases significantly.”
 
6-The correct argument
 
"Part of good argument management is a conscious willingness to scale. You may feel upset, angry, attacked, and injured-but you are not a wounded animal already cornered and forced to defend its beak and claws. Because the person who creates all these feelings in you is the one you love. We should also try to be aware of this at times when our bodies are affected by attack and flight responses, which are evolutionarily important but may be important in a couple's relationship.”

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